If you ask why did you return to India to any family who came back to India, these are the possible answers:

1. To make sure our kids grow up with Indian values and culture and provide an education similar to what we all received.

2. To take care of our parents who are getting older.

While most parents return to India from USA, UK and other countries for their children. Lot of parents think kids will get better education in India and the Indian education system will help them grow up the same culture and with the same values we all grew up. At the same time, one of the biggest concerns for the parents is, how do children adjust after they come back to India. Some of the doubts we had when we decided to return to India from USA were:

Can our kids adjust well in the schools in India?

Can they move well with other kids?

Will they be able to handle the work load in the Indian schools?

Can they cope with the challenges in growing up in India?

We had lot of worries on how the children will adjust with the school and the challenges in Indian schools. But no matter what, we were determined that we will return to India. Our policy was, we faced the challenges here and millions of other kids do the same. So, why not our kids?

How do children adjust in the schools in India after returning from USA

John went to 3 different schools in USA and studied 4 years in American schools. He is very determined on what he want to do, what he want to eat and whom he want to speak. He is pretty good at studies, but we were really concerned in his case due to his character. If does not like something, it is very hard to convince him to accept it. But if he decide to achieve something, he will probably achieve it.

On the other hand, Chris is just 5 years old and he has gone to a Kindergarten school in USA less than a year. His nature is, he can be easily pushed to do anything we want. He is of much more soft character than John. So we were not much worried on how he will adjust in schools in India after we come back. We thought he will like it here without much efforts.

It has been almost 3 months after our children started going to the St Patrick's Academy in Bangalore. So far so good. First 4 weeks we all struggled a bit. Kids frequently complained about teachers being rude and cruel punishments given to kids. I think this is one case were we failed to prepare the kids ahead of time. We under estimated the effect of punishments in Indian schools on kids who came from abroad. One day Chris came back saying teacher said she will chop the fingers if they come to school without trimming nails. Another day John came back complaining teacher banged and pushed hard on the head of a child and his neck bent and broke. (these were not true but were just exaggerations by kids since they were very scared)

We went to the school every few days requesting teachers to be little bit nicer to the kids for first few weeks until they adjust to the Indian schools. We met the principal complaining about the cruel punishments. Principal assured us that there is no such punishment in the school and it is all exaggeration by the kids since they have not seen the way teachers talk loud and strong to control the naughty kids.

Eventually we realized the teachers are just 'threatening' the kids about the potential punishments if they do not follow the rules. There are naughty kids in every class and instead of hand picking such kids, teacher make general comments to the entire class about the punishments they all will get if they do not follow the rules.

Our kids have seen only the nice-talking in USA. No matter what the kid do, teachers generally give no punishment in the form of harassment or any physical punishment. In USA, probably the punishments are in the form of negative remarks in the progress report, but here in India, kids get it on the spot!

After almost 3 months in the school, our kids have adjusted well with the Indian school system. Now they realize everything the teachers say is not really targeted to them.

How do children adjust after returning to India and what kind of problems they face

How do children adjust in the schools in India after returning from USA

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